Chapter 6: Our Purity in the Face of Man Souls

Chapter 6: Our Purity in the Face of Man Souls

True Love and Understanding of the Souls of our Brothers

      The soul of a Godly man is like yours: it was lost and astray, but God found it and has captured him with His love, Fatherhood, support, and strength. One of our strongest assets in our fight against impurity and our progression in holiness is our beholding of the heavenly Father’s pure agape towards out brothers in Christ. This love does no harm to anyone and thus this love is the fulfillment of the law of God against the impurity of the heart. When we understand the souls of our brothers in Christ, their moral depravity apart from Christ, their inability to fill our heart’s need for Christ, their desire for holiness, their struggle against sin, and other aspects, our hearts will go out to them in compassion and love. We will be able to keep ourselves pure because of the love and compassion that God gives us to protect our brothers from the impurity of their own hearts.

    He too, perhaps more than you, strives to be pure in his heart and to make his purpose be wholly to build the Kingdom of his Father and to walk in His Spirit. If you, a true daughter of the Lord, could look into his soul for an instant your heart would go out to him and you may even want to cover yourself up entirely so as not to promote his lust and you would be most tender, compassionate, submissive, and supportive. Certainly, dear sister, if you are one with a man, you are made to help him in a suitable way. Though you may not feel it now, you will find your deepest satisfaction and joy in marriage in meeting every Spiritual and physical need of His while trusting God to direct his soul. 

     One of the deceptions that many women have fallen into is to be drawn in to a relationship with a man who is not a believer or who is a believer walking in the flesh. Obviously this man will have many problems in his life: perhaps other men have ill-treated him, perhaps he has experienced some injustice, perhaps he is emotionally needy and men cannot help him in this way...ultimately his problem is that he needs to be convicted of his sin and repent and be found by the Good Shepherd. These women are deceiving into thinking that the man can be helped by her. This is far from the truth. If you could see that man's soul, you would know that the last thing on earth that he needs is a woman trying to help him. In his immaturity he will likely be drawn to her in fleshly ways and eventually destroy her and/or be destroyed by her. There is no good outcome for this. This man needs the heavenly Father and Godly men. Fair woman, run from him, and when your heart of pity and compassion goes out to him, cry out to your Father for him. He does not need you, and you do not need him.

     You have more influence on a man than you know. And your choice to reveal your body is a choice to exercise tremendous Ungodly power over the souls of men who are not wholeheartedly devoted to God and causing a great internal battle in the soul of God-fearing men. We ought to lay down are selfish desires to be noticed or to be like the world out of love for our brothers. If you could see his soul, you would never dress that way again, dear sister. You would weep in brokenness over the harm you had done to him. We should never seduce a man by any means: physically, emotionally, or even spiritually. We may have the ability to do this, but we should not, unless we hate our brothers.

14 Secrets of the Soul of a Man of God

     The purpose of this section is to reveal some truths to you about the soul of a man of God. Our hope is that our understanding of God’s ideals for His sons will encourage us to love our brothers and support them in their Godly purposes, rather than to cause them more temptation and distress.

1.     He has labored and toiled to find out who he is.

He knows that he cannot be a man unless he has a purpose. He knows that he cannot have a purpose unless he knows who he is. He has not been mindlessly living as the worldly men around him, but he has searched the deep and hidden recesses of his mind, heart, and soul to determine his substance and to find meaning in his existence. His first long and grueling discovery is that he is a sinner. He continues to discover the depth of this sobering truth even after his salvation. He knows what it is to try an infinite number of times to find worth in himself and fail in each instance. He finds that he has been born into sin, he has fallen short in every respect, there had been nothing admirable or desirable in him, and finally: in his current state he was an object of the wrath of God.

For evils beyond number have surrounded me;
My iniquities have overtaken me, so that I am not able to see;
They are more numerous than the hairs of my head,
And my heart has failed me. Ps 40

THE TRUE MAN OF GOD KNOWS THAT HIS OWN RIGHT ARM IS BROKEN.

2.     He has received God as His Father and Jesus Christ as his Lord, Savior, and Brother.

The Spirit has moved him to choose the only saving way through the death and resurrection of Christ for the forgiveness of his sins. He has belabored at the foot of the cross, time and again, to behold the written charges of his misconduct heaped upon his Savior and cancelled through the one atoning sacrifice. His continual failures bring him back to this place daily. His understanding of the love of God increases with his increasing understanding of the cross. The result of his experiences at the foot of the cross causes his soul to cry out “more of Him and less of me”. He is ever aware of the destructive tendencies of his own pride and self-exaltation. He fears the development of his own pride and comes often to the place of repentance.

As he accepts the saving One, he receives the right to be called a son of His heavenly Father and a brother of Jesus, through whom he has gained sonship of the heavenly Father. In receiving his identity as a son of his Father, his purpose starts to become clear to him. He grows to understand the purpose of His Father in the glorification of Himself and the deliverance of His saving love to the inhabitants of the world. He considers His brother, Jesus, the perfect example of obedience to His Father in laying down His life in love and of perfect submission to the Father. His eyes are not on the arrogant, the rich, or the respected men around him, but rather on His perfect Lord and Brother, Jesus Christ.

For when He received honor and glory from God the Father, such an utterance as this was made to Him by the Majestic Glory, “This is My beloved Son with whom I am well-pleased”—2 Peter 1:17

THE TRUE MAN OF GOD HAS DISCOVERED HIS FATHER AND THUS HIS PURPOSE.

3.     He has sought His Father and seen His glory.

In his search for his purpose, he seeks out his Father God with all of his heart. He seeks Him in His Word. He vigorously pursues the Truth in the Word of God with a heart filled with longing and desire, hope and expectation. He is not afraid to be alone. He knows that he needs time alone with His Father and longs for these times. He withdraws continually from the world to be with his Father whom He knows alone can show him his way and teach him his path. He passionately waits in stillness and silence before his Father. He knows that the process of arriving at this stillness before His Father is the fiercest battle that he will ever fight. As he zealously seeks His Father, His Father lovingly reveals His glory to His son. He is filled with joy and love at the sight of his Father. But even if he belabors and hears no one, he presses on wrestling with God telling Him “I will not let You go until You bless me!”.

⁵ Then the glory of the Lord will be revealed,
And all flesh will see it together;
For the mouth of the Lord has spoken.”
⁶ A voice says, “Call out.”
Then he answered, “What shall I call out?”
All flesh is grass, and all its loveliness is like the flower of the field.
⁷ The grass withers, the flower fades,
When the breath of the Lord blows upon it;
Surely the people are grass.
⁸ The grass withers, the flower fades,
But the word of our God stands forever. Isaiah 40

THE TRUE MAN OF GOD SEEKS HIS FATHER WITH ALL HIS HEART UNTIL HE IS REVEALED.

4.     He seeks the honor of the One who sent him rather than his own honor.

In radical contradiction to the vast majority of men around him and his natural inclinations, he seeks the honor of His Father who has sent him with an express purpose. He is willing to lay down his own honor in order to honor His Father. He is a man of Truth. He is willing to acknowledge his sin before men even if it means that he will never be honored before men again. He knows that the fear of men is the love of the praise of men rather than God. His fearlessness of men comes from his understanding of his purpose and his Father’s acceptance and approval of him. All he needs is the approval of the God of the universe. His continuous glimpses of the glory of his Father through the Holy Spirit feed his seeking of the honor of his Father whom he has seen and heard, touched and felt.

He who speaks from himself seeks his own glory; but He who is seeking the glory of the One who sent Him, He is true, and there is no unrighteousness in Him. John 7:18

THE TRUE MAN OF GOD HAS SURRENDERED HIS LONGING FOR HONOR AND LOVES THE HONOR OF HIS FATHER.

5.     He is a loving observer of the souls of those around him.

Unlike other men who are continually acting and speaking for the admiration or acceptance of those around them, he silently rests in His Father who reveals the souls of men and women, young and old, rich and poor, strong and weak, all those around him. His Father grants deep unconditional selfless love for these souls around him. He is no longer focused on his own bearings and presentation, but rather his loving observation of the souls of others gives him a type of power and authority from above by which he is released from the slavery of pleasing men for his own good. The fruit of His love is the sharing of the Gospel of Christ in Word and in deed.

A plan in the heart of a man is like deep water,
But a man of understanding draws it out. Proverbs 20:5

THE TRUE MAN OF GOD SEES AND SERVES THE SOULS OF OTHERS WITH AUTHORITY AND LOVE.

6.     He is not subject to the judgment of men.

His assessment of his performance is not based on the opinions of men around him or the ratings that the world has to offer. His actions are led by his known purpose revealed by His Father. As he acts he is fully aware that he is walking in obedience to his Father. He does not second guess himself and unconfidently ask for the reaffirming opinions of those around him. After he has acted, his own discernment from the Holy Spirit living in him convicts his heart of any false motive that was present and gives him great humility and joy in his Father in his successful obedience. He does not need a single word of affirmation from men. He knows that he has done the will of His Father. He is able to look everyone firmly in the eye and hold a fixed unwavering gaze. His glance is filled with Light, compassion, and love, as well as deep wisdom, Godly anguish, and the fire of His Father.

but just as we have been approved by God to be entrusted with the gospel, so we speak, not as pleasing men, but God who examines our hearts. I Thess 2:4

The spiritual man makes judgments about all things, but he himself is not subject to any man’s judgment:

¹⁵ But he who is spiritual appraises all things, yet he himself is appraised by no one. ¹⁶ For who has known the mind of the Lord, that he will instruct Him? But we have the mind of Christ. I Cor 2

THE TRUE MAN OF GOD IS JUDGED BY THE VERDICT OF HIS FATHER NOT THE MEN AROUND HIM.

7.     He is not swayed by the auras of power, fame, and pride in the men around him.

     He has spied on his enemies, Satan and his forces, and has learned the secrets of the evil forces through His Spiritual discernment. He knows that one of the devil’s most successful weapons to deceive self-seeking men and to try to crush Godly men is to wave before their sight auras of power, fame, and pride of the men of the world. These ideals are manifested in various ways such as riches, the accumulation of fine material goods, the fame and honor due to worldly men for their physical strength, intelligence, rhetoric, and social services. He knows that the loudness of a man is not an indicator of his importance. He knows that the number of applauds and attention that the men around him receive is not associated with his eternal standing and inheritance. His strength and glory come from his standing before His Father and his inheritance shared.

¹⁵ For thus the Lord God, the Holy One of Israel, has said,

“In repentance and rest you will be saved,
In quietness and trust is your strength.”
But you were not willing,
¹⁶ And you said, “No, for we will flee on horses,”
Therefore you shall flee!
“And we will ride on swift horses,”
Therefore those who pursue you shall be swift. Is 30

THE TRUE MAN OF GOD FINDS CONTENTMENT IN HIS FATHER IN SPITE OF THE EARTHLY GLORIFICATION OF OTHER MEN.

8.     His self-assessment comes from who he is rather than what he does.

Unlike other men who judge themselves based on the work of their hands quantified by numerical values of people, currencies, rankings, and space, his assessment of his own progress is based on his Spirit-revealed knowledge of the condition of his heart. He knows that “God can rise up children for Himself from the rocks” and that “no flesh can boast before Him”. He knows that the Hand of the Sovereign God will surely fulfill the Ultimate Plan. His strivings are to align his heart, mind, body, and soul with the character of Jesus Christ. He strives to be conformed to the image of Christ. Above any deed which he performs, he seeks to be a true and devoted follower of His Lord Jesus Christ. He is not mesmerized or challenged by the works of [even Christian] men around him who seem to be progressing rapidly in their outward performance. He is more content to humbly obey the will of His Father and be known by no man than to conquer the world and have a heart of stone. He is content with any job if only he may be near to his Father and please Him in every way.

THE TRUE MAN OF GOD IS TRUE BECAUSE OF HIS CHARACTER NOT THE MAGNITUDE OF HIS VISIBLE WORK.

9.     He turns back false battles and only fights real battles.

He leaves behind most of the battles fought by other men. He knows that the battles between men around him are not the battles that his Father has trained and commanded him to fight. His battle is always the battles in the Spiritual realms. He shows true love and humility to all men as he is given insight into the souls of others. He consciously arms himself with the helmet of salvation, the Sword of the Spirit, the shield of faith, the breastplate of righteousness, and his feet are shod with the readiness to share the Gospel of Peace. He does not involve himself in battles that the enemy has contrived in the sons of men. He is led by the Spirit of love into the only battle of His Father, the victorious One, who bestows heavenly weapons that demolish every Gospel-opposing pretension.

You therefore, my son, be strong in the grace that is in Christ Jesus. ² The things which you have heard from me in the presence of many witnesses, entrust these to faithful men who will be able to teach others also. ³ Suffer hardship with me, as a good soldier of Christ Jesus. ⁴ No soldier in active service entangles himself in the affairs of everyday life, so that he may please the one who enlisted him as a soldier. 2 Tim 2:1-4

³ For though we walk in the flesh, we do not war according to the flesh, ⁴ for the weapons of our warfare are not of the flesh, but divinely powerful for the destruction of fortresses. ⁵ We are destroying speculations and every lofty thing raised up against the knowledge of God, and we are taking every thought captive to the obedience of Christ, 2 Cor 10

THE TRUE MAN OF GOD ONLY FIGHTS HIS FATHER’S BATTLE.

10.  He seeks heavenly pleasure rather than earthly pleasure.

His trials of discipline from His Father and persecutions have caused him to suffer greatly in his body such that he is done with sins of the flesh or is growing towards this end. His visions of the glory of God in prayer and knowledge of the Words of his Father have caused him to know the joys of knowing His Triune Lord. He is enraptured by the glories and joys of heaven. He puts his faith in the joy set before him that he may endure opposition from sinful men and from his flesh that wages war against him.

THE TRUE MAN OF GOD IS SATISFIED ONLY BY ETERNAL PLEASURE.

11.  His manhood is not threatened by the vilest feminism.

Regardless of the spirit of pride and feminism in women around him, he knows that God has made him a man and has given him His purpose. He knows that these women are still women created in the image of his Father. He sees and loves the masked frail souls of feminist women and treats them with humility, gentleness, and respect while not wavering in his manhood. He does not try to outwardly dominate over her in anger nor shrivels inwardly. Rather he lets the peace of Christ rule his heart. He is unshakeable.

For the Lord God helps Me,
Therefore, I am not disgraced;
Therefore, I have set My face like flint,
And I know that I will not be ashamed. Is 50:7

THE TRUE MAN OF GOD DOES NOT FLINCH IN THE FACE OF FEMINISM.

12.  He is able to love all women with Agape.

He does not remain indifferent to women in the world. He does not despise the immoral women for her provocation. He does not succumb to evil seduction. He does not disrespect a woman though she disrespects herself by her seductive heart. His heart is pure and he is able to love the prostitute with grace and unconditional brotherliness. He does not condemn women for her many faults but teaches and reflects the words of Christ “Neither do I condemn you. Go and sin no more”. His Father has taught him to treat all women in the church as his beloved sisters with absolute purity.

Do not sharply rebuke an older man, but rather appeal to him as a father, to the younger men as brothers, ² the older women as mothers, and the younger women as sisters, in all purity.1 Timothy 5

THE TRUE MAN OF GOD LOVES ALL WOMEN WITH PURE AGAPE.

13.  He lays down his life for his family (both Spiritual and physical)

In living he lays down his life for Spiritual and physical family. He labors and toils to provide for and to protect his family. He will do anything, even the woman jobs, without thought of himself, because His work, labor, and endurance are prompted by faith, love, and hope in His heavenly Father. He is not complacent or lazy, but is filled with the zeal of the Lord. In death he lays down his life. Need we say more?

But I said, “I have toiled in vain,
I have spent My strength for nothing and vanity;
Yet surely the justice due to Me is with the Lord,
And My reward with My God.”Is 49:4

⁸ Having so fond an affection for you, we were well-pleased to impart to you not only the gospel of God but also our own lives, because you had become very dear to us. ⁹ For you recall, brethren, our labor and hardship, how working night and day so as not to be a burden to any of you, we proclaimed to you the gospel of God. I Thess 2

THE TRUE MAN OF GOD WILLINGLY EXHAUSTS HIMSELF IN LOVE FOR THE PEOPLE OF GOD.

14.  His heart is set on eternal riches.

He knows that his inheritance is kept in heaven for him and he thinks little of his earthly financial security. He sees earthly currency as a blessing and provision of His Father to enable him to fulfill His purpose. Yet he trusts in the loving Hand of His Father to give him no less and no more than he ought to have at any given time. He accepts the lot given to him without longing for what the men around him have nor fearing the state of the poor men around him. He is not afraid to accept God’s gifts to him given through others, but knows that everything belongs to his Father. If God allows him to lose his job, he does not turn towards suicide, self-contempt, anger, or fear, but his heart is strengthened and renewed. His job search is directed by selfless love and steadfast faith in His Sovereign Father. His Father teaches him more about who he truly is and where his worth comes from through times like these. His Father also teaches him to wait for His deliverance and provision for him and his earthly family. When he is blessed, he does not set his heart on, take pride in, or assume power based on what is in his possession, but gives generously that he may be welcomed into his heavenly dwelling. His “food is to do the will of [H]his Father and to finish His work”.

³² For the Gentiles eagerly seek all these things; for your heavenly Father knows that you need all these things. ³³ But seek first His kingdom and His righteousness, and all these things will be added to you. Matt 6

¹⁹ “Do not store up for yourselves treasures on earth, where moth and rust destroy, and where thieves break in and steal.²⁰ But store up for yourselves treasures in heaven, where neither moth nor rust destroys, and where thieves do not break in or steal; ²¹ for where your treasure is, there your heart will be also. Matt 6

THE TRUE MAN OF GOD WORKS FOR HEAVENLY RICHES AND IS NOT SHAKEN BY FINANCIAL PROSPERITY OR DISASTER.

The Carnal Man's Response to a Godly Woman

     A pure woman will certainly be noticed in the world.

Likewise also, deeds that are good are quite evident, and those which are otherwise cannot be concealed.I Tim 5:25

I have observed the following responses in unbelieving men to Godly women:

Avoidance: The woman who walks in the Light is convicting to him. He knows that he cannot use her for his carnal purposes. He may not even dare to look at her.

Respect: The woman he sees is not like the other women that he knows who crave his attention and admiration. He respects her purity and does not treat her in a common way. This woman may even have men treat her better than they treat other women

Desire: He wants this woman because he sees goodness in her. Her tenderness and compassion are beautiful to him. He can never find any other women with her purity and refinement. He may even start to fall in love with her after which there are only two outcomes if the woman continues to walk blamelessly before God: he will start to know the God in her by what she says and does and if he is against God, his heart will turn away from her or he will start to know the God in her by what she says and does and come into the Light, repent, and turn to Christ. Christ will purify his heart and he will protect her from himself (ideally)...unless God has intended for them to get married (which is almost never the case)

Hatred: This woman's moral purity offends him and he cannot stand her. He may illtreat her or avoid her. 

     My dear sister, unless your heart is 100% pure before the Father and His Spirit has specifically prompted you to share Christ with an unbelieving men, God has completely captured your heart, and you have the armor of God on, you would be walking in fire to try to minister to him (a relationship with him is out of the question). And again, this warning is for married women as well.

Many will be purged, purified and refined, but the wicked will act wickedly; and none of the wicked will understand, but those who have insight will understand. Dan 12:10

The Relationship between the Fathers and Sons 

     The understanding of the nature of the father-son relationship will give us a greater respect for the dignity and nobility of the Godly men in our lives. Again, I write the following so that our hearts may be filled with love, understanding, and respect for our Spiritual fathers and brothers.

     There is a somewhat lost concept of the intended design for the relationship between the father and son. This intended design is derived by studying the relationship between God the Father and the Son, Jesus Christ. To summarize this Divine relationship, the Father finds great pleasure in His beloved Son (Matt 3:17) and the Son is meant to exactly reflect the Father’s glory and character. The Son is the exact representation of the Father bearing all of His worth, glory, radiance, splendor, and honor. The Son was to live His life in perfect submission and obedience to the Father and to only do and say what the Father commanded Him to. 

God, after He spoke long ago to the fathers in the prophets in many portions and in many ways, 2 in these last days has spoken to us in His Son, whom He appointed heir of all things, through whom also He made the world. 3 And He is the radiance of His glory and the exact representation of His nature, and upholds all things by the word of His power. When He had made purification of sins, He sat down at the right hand of the Majesty on high, 4 having become as much better than the angels, as He has inherited a more excellent name than they.

5 For to which of the angels did He ever say,

“ YOU ARE MY SON, TODAY I HAVE BEGOTTEN YOU”?

And again,

“ I WILL BE A FATHER TO HIM AND HE SHALL BE A SON TO ME”?Heb 1

     Immediately the earthly fathers will feel at a loss when examining how their relationship(s) with their son(s) measure(s) up to this ideal. In one sense, sons rarely bear all of the good characteristics of their fathers nor would they be inclined to perfectly submit to and obey their father. And secondly, even if the sons perfectly reflected their fathers, the fathers are not perfect beings worth perfectly reflecting. Furthermore, because of the failure of many sons to uphold the honor and glory of their earthly father’s good characteristics and their success at inheriting [and sometimes amplifying] his weaknesses, the father would not seek to find pleasure or honor in his son. The failure of his son to measure up to even himself [much less a perfect man] would cause a father who does not regard the Gospel to disown his own son. For in the flesh, the father would desire his own exaltation, and what he sees in his own son will simply never come close to reflecting the glory that the father feels he ought to have. I have seen numerous souls of men who have been crushed and demoralized at the failure of their sons to meet their requirement of a good representation of his own perceived glory. For only when the earthly father has ceased to glory in his flesh is he able to do anything but disown an unworthy son. 

     On the other hand, the son may attempt to imitate and obey his father early on in his life, but when he finds that he is unable or unwilling to obey his father, he will seek his own independence. For apart from Christ, any one seeks to be removed from any perceived yoke of responsibility or oppression. Or when his father has ceased to represent the son’s ideal of a glorious man, he will cease to honor, imitate, and obey him. 

     In this case, apart from the Truth of grace, Christian fathers and sons would have been in a great dilemma. And indeed this is one explanation for the nature of these end times where children and fathers will turn against one another. The resolution of this dilemma starts with grace. The father must first of all receive His heavenly Father’s for his own sins. These sins are likely reflected in the son and only after the father receives forgiveness for his own sins is he able to forgive his son. Secondly the father must cease to find glory in his fallen self and find glory in the unchanging character of the Sovereign God of love. When the father’s glory is in the eternal Covenant, there is no human glory at stake and this will bring great peace to the relationship. The son then has the choice to glory in his father’s glory, that is, the heavenly Father’s glory. And the sorrow of the lost pride of life is removed. Ultimately, the father-son relationship for believing men must be based primarily on grace and forgiveness (much of it). 

Agape’s Facilitation of Respect

     Agape refers to the unfailing true powerful unconditional love of God. I have found personally that in order to respect a man, I must Agape him. Some men have said, “I would rather have women respect me than love me”, but I am saying here that though this may be true from his perspective, I cannot respect him without loving him with God’s love. I do not know how to respect men without God’s help of revealing His own Agape.  But when we love them unconditionally and selflessly, we are able to know in the Spirit how to behave and speak to show them that we respect them. When women are “blinded by love” they tend to only see the good in the man and neglect all his faults. As earthly strife and struggles come to them, she will start to see his faults and begin to belittle him in her mind and compare him to other “better” men.

     In this sense, our respect for men cannot depend on their solidity of virtue or earthly characteristics. Because those things are temporary: men may falter in sin and they may lose their earthly wealth, charm, and strength. We must love them unconditionally with God’s love. This means that we are seeking for their greatest joy and satisfaction in the glorification of God, in loving God with all of his heart, soul, mind, and strength, in loving those around him, and in fulfilling His God-given purpose. If you truly love him, you will see his soul with all his faults and still respect him, according to God’s will, because you agape him.

     Think of a blessed wife embracing her husband before they go to sleep thinking, “You have not loved me. You have chased your idols all day. You have left me with many financial worries. But I love you. I pray that God supports you and comforts you. May you know Him more, my dear one. I love you. I love you. I love you…You are my great delight. I want to follow you. Will you be my leader?”

     Every day she does this. She keeps herself pure and respects him because the Agape bestowed to her for him will enable her to. Thank God for His great power!